Life is not just one thing

 Life is not just a simple thing to explain   

Can anyone explain me what life is? I mean, I think that I’ve got the general idea that life is the time you are alive on this earth, but that can't be all? O yes?. Life...life...life...one syllable, four letters and a thousand questions . What does this combination of letters that are placed in the correct order mean? Why do some people say that life is beautiful while others say that life is trash? How can life be so long for some people and too short for others? Why does life constantly change? With all this, we can be sure that Life is more than a single perception.

Life is like a chocolate box. In traditional chocolate boxes, there are chocolates of different types. Some are milk chocolates (typically sweet), some are dark chocolates (a bit bitter), others are half sweet and half bitter and others are just chocolates with weird flavors (like beer flavor or spicy flavor). But the interesting thing about this is that when you pick one out of the box, you never know what kind of chocolate you will get.

Life is like a garden. Each person has their own personal garden in which they can plant flowers, trees, fruits and whatever they want. If you want to have a good and beautiful garden, you need to take care of it and work on it, but remember that even in the most beautiful gardens there will be times when pests and insects appear.

Life is like an ocean and we have a boat with our name on it. In an immense ocean we sail in our boat; we know our boat, we know that it has good and bad elements, but despite everything it is with that boat that we travel on the water of the ocean. Sometimes, the water is clear, calm and peaceful, so we navigate without problems. However, there are times when the water is agitated, tumultuous and violent, so we feel that we start to lose control of our ship, and that the water steers our helpless boat. What can we do against the inevitable nature of the ocean? We can only know that the water of the ocean is not going to be rough forever and that our boat will pass through any water along the way.

Life is like a candle on a cake. When we place and light a delicate and representative candle on a birthday cake, we expect that the flame is going to last until the end of the birthday song; however, sometimes the candle simply goes out in the middle or before the time the candle is expected to go out. On the other hand, there are candles that remain lit but that doesn’t mean that the other candles haven’t illuminated and decorated the cake as well. A candle can be lit in a matter of seconds, but the candle can also be extinguished in a matter of seconds.

In brief, when we talk about what life is, we will not only get a single, unique and fixed answer since the concept of Life may vary depending on each person's perspective on what life is for them. So, life can’t be just a simple definition or fixed perception in which all thoughts, experiences and feelings fit. Life is a combination of everything and that is what makes life extraordinarily inexplicable and unlabelable. Take care

My little Moon

 L.R.D.

“Love hurts, love hurts a lot when it has nowhere to go”.

Every time I think about you I can't help but feel sad and I wish with my whole heart to have just a minute, just a second, just an instant to hug you tight and tell you once again that  I love you and that I’m sorry. My love doesn't know where to go and it comes back to me sad, desperate and hopeless because it couldn't find you. Since the day you left us, everything became dark, cold and meaningless. Life and dreams lost their colors and the places only became memories.

Every night, I wish I could find you in my dreams because there I would be able to see that smile, that happiness, that innocence and that air of royalty. People don't understand, don't talk, don't try to remember. I wish I were like them, but my heart doesn’t allow me to go with them ; I wish they were more like me. My soul needs a refuge; it needs a safe place to go, but where can it go if you are not here?

Don't ask me to forget my partner of adventures, of laughter and madness. The most beautiful accomplice, with just a glance we could know the answer, we promised to keep our secrets and to protect each other. But apparently, you did it better than me, even when you were falling you preferred to protect me with all your strength. I wished with all my heart that I could have caught you, taken your hand before you hit the ground. I wasn't a hero just like you with me, I hope one day I can forgive me  ‘cause I know you already did. 

The things are not the same and I know they will never be the same again. I miss you in a way that words can't explain ; I only want to run after you, chase you with my eyes and see you and adore you one more time. Is that too much to ask ? My heart cries out your name with a closed mouth, strong women don’t cry. If I only had an opportunity I would never let you go I would use all my strength to hold you because I love you. Just with a glance you could make me smile and breathe fresh air, the simple fact of telling you your sweet nicknames made my heart dance. 

I would trade all the candy in the world for the chance to kiss your little nose. I would give all my belongings to ruffle your hair. I would give all my money to go for a walk with you. I would give my whole world to feel close to you again. You were one of the best things in my entire life, thank you for just being you for being with me and making me feel loved, happy, accompanied, special, childlike, valuable, and alive. My little princess. 

26-09-16

The weapon

 Most people don’t know this, but we all have a powerful sword in our hands and most of the time we use it without realizing that “A weapon can hurt, cut, and destroy things” so we end up hurting others or the other way around, we end up wounded by someone else's sword.

The most dangerous invisible weapon?

I remember the first time I was wounded with a sword, it was in 2007 and like most children I wasn’t prepared for the attack. That morning, I was proud of my project, I was happy and excited to show it to my classmates, especially because my parents had helped to do it in the best way, so through my eyes, it was the best project in the world. I entered the classroom  with a big smile, and with my project in my hands, and then this boy (I can’t remember his name) said “that looks ridiculous” yeah, at that moment that statement, that utterance, that expression of words hit me; it hurt me deeply.

Are all the wounds the same?

Not, the wounds caused by the sharpest sword have different levels, some are somewhat superficial and don’t hurt you too much. Then, we have “the deep ones” these as the name says are deep and they hurt you more; however, there are “the critical ones” these injuries are serious and can be very dangerous for you since these wounds go through you without mercy and go straight to your heart.  So, it can be said that “Not all wounds go to the heart, but those that do are the ones that cause the most damage...”

If there’s not blood, how can we be sure that the weapon harms us?

The answer is easy and It is that we can know that the weapon hurt us just because we can feel the damage. When we are attacked by someone's sword, we can immediately feel an unpleasant feeling inside us; we feel different, we know that the things are not going well anymore. In addition, even though we can’t see blood as an indicator of weapon damage, we can see other things such as the change in someone’s face, behavior or attitude; we can also perceive drops of water coming out of the eyes, and a terrible silent that fills the room. So even if we cannot see the physical effects of damage (as in the case of a blow to the face or a cut with a knife) we can be sure that we are injured because we feel pain.

Don’t I have a weapon too?

 Although we don’t think about hurting others, sometimes we draw the sword without realizing it or not??. Personally, I prefer to avoid situations where I would probably use my weapon because I’m aware of the damage it can cause, but sometimes there are situations that get out of our hands and in a matter of seconds we can act without thinking too much. Last year, someone that I love hurt me, causing me more than three wounds and two of them were critical. I felt like I was falling apart; I was about to cry, but without realizing it, I took three steps forward and I began to defend myself by attacking him with my sword “strong blows”.     So, his attack turned into a duel.

 In brief, we usually don’t realize the great power of this dangerous invisible weapon, since it’s though that to be hurt we only need a physical weapon, but the things is that words can cause the same level of damage or even more to  a person because some of these wounds tend to be deeper and unfortunately, others go to the heart and they remain marked the soul forever.            Take care

Mr. "What if?"

     There is a man who is always waiting for the right time, for the exact moment to appear. Whenever a person is about to make an important decision he pops up like a pimple on a delicate and clean face. And, unfortunately for us, he doesn’t act like a gentleman.

     Oh! Mr. "What if?", why are you always following me? You see my movements and you draw your Machiavellian plans. Even though I step carefully and think that this time I will get my way, you grab my arm and stop me from moving forward; with the speed of a thunder, you start doing your bad! throwing doubts into my mind... one over here, another over there, now my mind is full of “what if’s?” ...“What if I do this, and it doesn’t turn out as I expected?” “What if I decide to do this, and I ruin it?” “What if I make the wrong choice?...” “What If I fail?” “What if I disappoint others with my decision?”. Mr. "What if?", you got me again!

     They say that you are not powerful as I think but every time you come to me, I can’t get ride of you as easily as I wish...Am I an easy point to attack? Or are you just a cruel villain who enjoys making me fall apart? At this point, I'm not sure anymore, just take your belongings and get away from me.

    With your black coat, and your black hat you look like a shadow, that suits you well since you act like my shadow that whispers a new negative thought, uncertainty or doubt in my ear, every time I'm managing to overcome your previous “what if?” and as always, after spitting out your doubts, you end with a  mocking laughter. What a villain you are!

    Now that I remember you didn't use to be so bad before, but as a human being, you grew up and that wasn’t a good thing ‘cause you became meaner over time. In the past, you were gentler; you knew the limits like that time when I had to make my mind and you just gave me one “what if?”: “what if I don’t like it in the end?” and that was all. But, what about now? When I have to make a decision in my life and you give me one hundred and one “what if’s?”!!! You gained experience, you became a master.

    In short, Mr. "What if?", it is obvious that you won’t leave me, you’re not a man who gives up quickly. But I have learned to know you, to understand you, to recognize your way of acting and moving. You are no longer a stranger to me, and the next time you come to me to sabotage me with your wicked and ruthless tricks to fill my mind with insecurities, be sure that I will not let you get away with it...Take care 

Artificial paradises

While reading the biography of the French writer “Charles Baudelaire” what came to my mind was “Wow, this man does crazy things”, but then I thought “Wow, how many things this dude went through” and then the title of one of his books “Artificial Paradises” made sense to me.

What is an artificial paradise? 

Artificial: something produced by human beings; not occurring naturally. Paradise: a place or condition of great happiness where everything is exactly as you would like it to be or an ideal place or state.  So it can be said that an artificial paradise is a place or state people create in order to feel good.

"Drugs are not the only ones that create artificial paradises"

 In his book, Baudelaire describes the effects of the drugs and discusses the way in which they could theoretically aid reaching an "ideal" world ; however, there are other things in life that can create artificial paradises and are not considered as harmful as drugs, at least to some extent. Among these things can be: social networks, platforms, games, food, sports, etc. Some of these things may be good and beneficial for people,  but that doesn't mean that these are not used as a means to clear the mind, distract oneself or perhaps "take a break from reality". Hmm, isn't it a happy place? Hmm, maybe a paradise?

 “I just want to think in other things” 

Said my friend when I asked him why he spent so much time on tik tok. “ It's my distraction” he told me a few minutes later then I realized he looked like he was starting to remember something so he took out his phone and started watching videos and in a matter of seconds he started laughing, he seemed happy; he managed to forget his reality.

“It’s my happy place”

Last month, I was talking with an old friend and in a moment she told me “You know, the best part of my day is when i go to the gym; I turn on my music and start training”, “that’s good” I said, but then she added “it’s my escape, there I don’t think in my problems, in my responsabilitites or in the things that are overwhelming in my day” “it’s my happy place”.

"I needed another place to go while I was stuck at home"

There was this time when I was sick and I didn’t know what I had the doctors didn’t know either. I spent my days watching series, sometimes I finished a series in just one day, I didn’t want to think about my state of health; I needed another place to go while I was stuck in my house. So I found a place in which I didn’t remember my sickness and that place was the television in my room. 

In brief, the concept of “artificial paradises” is not something that only involves toxic substances and a fatal destiny, and although this concept may vary according to each person's perspective, I believe that sometimes we don't have the slightest idea of the many things that happen in the lives of others. So, from time to time everyone needs to disconnect from reality for a while and go to their “Artificial Paradise”. Take care